WHAT IS CHEATING???
What is cheating? "And early in the morning He came again into the Temple and all the people came unto Him; and He sat down, and taught them." "And the scribes and Pharisees brought unto Him a woman taken in adultery; and when they had set her in the midst, They say unto Him, Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act. Now Moses in the Law commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what sayest Thou?" "This they said, tempting Him, that they might have to accuse Him." "But Jesus stooped down, and with His finger wrote on the ground, as though He heard them not. So when they continued asking Him, He lifted up Himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her... And again He stooped down, and wrote on the ground." "And they which heard it, being convicted by their own conscience, went out one by one, beginning at the eldest, even unto the last: and Jesus was left alone, and the woman standing in the midst." "When Jesus had lifted up Himself, and saw none but the woman, He said unto her, Woman, where are those thine accusers? Hath no man condemned thee?" "She said, No man, Lord." "And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more." John 8:2-11 KJV Tiger Woods caused media frenzy when he went from being an international golf hero and a positive role model to becoming an accused sexual desperado. He was exposed for having extra marital affairs with several women while being married. He was labelled ‘immoral’ and as a result he even lost some of his better golf sponsors due to the worldwide scandal that befell him. Some claimed that he deserved to be disgraced, divorced and banned from golfing while others sighted that he is at fault for marrying a white woman and sleeping with only white women. ... In western culture, women are encouraged to enhance the look, feel and smell of their bodies and to flaunt their cuteness and sexiness openly. But in order to present the notion that they are as attractive as they can afford to be, they can also push that envelope with cunning accuracy. Young boys who were never trained to have the restrain needed to stay faithful to one woman (at a time) grow up and become men who are expected to have sexual self control in a deceitful world. An adolescent boy who was praised for being a ‘ladies man’ now grows up to be a condemned cheating spouse. The notion of freedom has driven both men and women to secretly yearn for wild sexual fantasies which neither can afford in outward appearances.
Jessie James, one of American’s most innovative television personalities who became renowned around the world for his extra-ordinary talents in manufacturing custom motor-cycles, also caused an international media stir when several women came forward and proclaimed that like Tiger Woods he too has had extra marital affairs with them. Obviously these are not the same women who accused Tiger Woods. This all American sleeved arm tattoo bearing 'bad boy' is often tainted for being an ex-hubby to a porn star. Many had considered Jessie James unfit to be Sandra Bullock’s heartthrob in the first place and from the very beginning had speculated infidelity was in their cards.
Is cheating an offence against God??
Is it against your spouse?
Or doe it even exist?
Amidst the scandal, he suspended his golfing in sort of professional help at a rehab center. He has made a public apology to his family and his fans and is working diligently to save his marriage. His accusers' credibility were made whole for the most part because a voicemail recording of Woods talking intimately to someone other than his wife, was produced along with saved text messages his self proclaimed former lovers had saved to confirm that indeed she had had a romantic involvement with the golf star.
Society's myth is: encouraging a boy to explore his sexual conquest nature is good for his manhood. During manhood a single bachelor is free to fornicate with multiple 'bachelorettes'. But that same myth denies an adolescent girl from having the same experience gained from exploring her sexual conquest. Boys practice and play sports to horn their macho skills and date several girls to bigger their egos. On the other hand, a girl is seen as having low self esteem if she repeatedly dates a number of boys at the same time. From an early age, women are taught to restrain their sexual desires and are labelled a ‘slut’ if they sleep around. But the core concept of pre marital sex is often never enforced. In order words, sex is a priceless commodity which a woman should not offer and she should never give it to just any guy especially a married man. However, opposites attract when passions lead of broken taboos.
The irony in western culture is men are attracted to all the beauty enhancements which women use to compete against each other. While they are turning back their biological clocks, women who would have been exempt from the 'sex chase game' now remain in a pool where everyday millions of eighteen (18) year old girls are introduced. And men who are hard wired to acquire all that their eyes desire, can not get enough of the beauty in these beasts. Avoiding this temptation has to be a day to day battle. This is ironic because bachelors are allowed to court as many attractive women they wish to court, just as long as thier marital status says single. 'Bachelorettes' are expected to do the opposite. Yet when bachelors become married men society expects them to suddenly turn away from chasing several women and be monogamous with his wife.
All around the world, scientific experts on this issue have stated with all certainty that it is in the genetic nature of male human beings to seek and impregnate as many human females as possible. They (scientific experts) have concluded that it is because men subconsciously aspire to spread their genes and ensure that they will live on through infamy. Those same scientific experts have added that on the contrary human females are subconsciously prone to seek a man with dominant genes for the sake of bearing stronger off springs. And since a human female goes through nine (9) months of pregnancy plus an additional eighteen (18) years to raise their child she is more naturally inclined to yearn for a monogomous mate who would stick around after she bears children and never wander with other females. 
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Sandra Bullock, seen as an all American sweetheart, is a Hollywood star who gained stardom from mega commercial successes as an actress. Her success also brought her many prestigious acting awards and earned her a 14th place wealthiest woman in star biz status. But in the United States you will find a blur between the lines that divide some religious values from cultural morality in relation to constitutional no nos. Women have been sexually exploited beyond measure for many years to a point where they often see themselves as sexual preys before they actually become one. The sex scandal of this couple often depicted as a mismatch has caused many to alienate Jessie James while being sympathetic towards Sandra Bullock. Jesse James has also checked into rehab for personal reasons as he desperately seeks the forgiveness of his wife. But what about God?
Now here are my questions: Do opposites really attract? What is the historic nature of man? What is the historic nature of women? How has romance transpired between a man and women over the course of human history and how has that changed today?
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I must point out that I have not read a scripture yet that out rightly condemns polygamy. This does not mean that I encourage it. What I am saying is the point remains true that God never banned it in any book. People suggest that because God made one Adam and one Eve, that it must mean that God intended for one man to be with one woman at a time. However, the majority of great men in the holy scriptures that I’ve read have had several wives and concubines at the same time and that did not anger God against them. Some had only one wife by choice.
All scriptures which I’ve read on the subject tend to point against engaging in pre marital sex otherwise known as fornication, or, engaging in adultery (which can only mean, if you like a woman you should marry her). In the scriptures, as long as you’re married to a woman you can sleep with her. And there is no set limit in any scripture as to how many women a man can marry. In fact in Christianity and Islam if you note, men are the ordained caretakers of society and women are allotted to men. Eve was given to Adam. In religion, there is a blatant inequality between men and woman when it comes to marriages and who marries who. I’m only telling it as it is. In religion, women get married to men and that's why they take the man's lastname. I've never heard of one where women get to go and marry as many men as they choose. Though now women could push for that to become law today.
In today's society this uneven playing field between man and women has been levelled by the rule of law. It is now illegal and/or immoral for a married man to marry another woman while he is already married simply because women cannot marry several husbands at the same time. In western culture a man has to divorce his current wife legally before he can marry a new wife. However, westernized societies clearly permit non married couples to engage in fornication if they wish to. Common law spouses who are mere boyfriend and girlfriend, are expected to abide by the same principles that married people live by and are given the same rights under the law. In order words the constitution trumps the Bible or the Quran when it comes to marriage in the west and crime is more punishable than sin.
ie: If a boyfriend/girlfriend fornicates with someone other than their partner, she/he is considered to be cheating on the person whom they are with. And such cheating is considered to be immoral. But cross fornication is frowned upon in the same manner that adultery is. yet, fornication is not? Is there a war against marriage?
I agree that any form of deceit kills trust. But I also think fornication is a sin and it does not matter how many people you do not fornicate with. Merely fornicating with a girlfriend/boyfriend or common law spouse no matter how much you love them, is a sin against you and your God and that is more serious than braking a man made law. And just as adultery is sin so is fornication. I believe that we are all sinners in God's eyes and we can never be perfect. Therefore, a fornicator is in no way more moral than an adulterer even if the fornicator is faithful to their partner. Therefore, he who has sin cannot condemn another.
On this issue of morality, it is import to note that the one man/one woman ideology is a non scriptural ideology which was incorporated into western constitutions and impacted into western moral values and taught to everyone in a western society or with a western thinking to create a balance of equality between women and men. An equality which is not found in the most common religions. This is the core issue concerning western influence in the Middle East for example. Insurgents are taught what they believe at a very young age and that's why it is almost impossible to convince them that our western ways of looking at life is the better way. This is partly the reason why countries like China and North Korea do not allow Google to proliferate all its contents among their citizens. It is only when we look at a foreign matter from a western point of view that we may consider certain actions as unfair or immoral. But the cause of these deviations in western thinking is based on our own hypocrisy. Our society blends sin and good will but it deviates from religious restrictions.
So all said and done my final questions are: What are the ground rules of moral values in our way of life in western cultures? Is it based on scriptures or is it based on the constitution? Who do we answer to?
"Blessed are they that do His Commandments, that they may have right to the tree of life, and may enter in through the gates into the city. For without are dogs, and sorcerers, and whoremongers, and murderers, and idolaters, and whosoever loveth and maketh a lie."
Revelation 22:14-15 KJV
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