I’m not a fan of Bill O’reilly. I was not a fan of Donald Sterling either. But I am still a fan of Bill Cosby. I will not throw any of these men under the bus until I see clear evidence of their alleged crimes. To me, this is not about black or white, female, male, rich or poor for me. I am careful how I throw people under the bus. Sometimes, there is a bigger picture.
I speak as a heterosexual male who has no obligation to any dogma that dictates my sex life. I think if I am single and do not commit incest, pedophilia, bestiality or other extremely deviant sexual acts then I should be free to pursue any woman I want for any reason without any guilt. Provided that woman is of age and single, of course. Some guys go after women who are in a relationship.
The problem with O’reilly and other men in his situation is not only the crime they may have committed. It’s the social norms that led to such crimes being possible. For example, heterosexual men are taught to idolize women. All our orientation in life is to get money, so that we can use it to marry a woman and raise a family with her.
However, in almost every television commercial, Internet website, movie, television show, magazine, billboards, etc., women are sexually objectified to target straight men. Establishments use women’s nudity to sell everything to us. Female nudity is used to capture our attention. Companies hypnotize their male customers with the tits, hips and the pretty faces of women. Yet, society shames men for wanting sex. Many men pretend or lie, use tricks and so forth, in order to get the sex they’ve been taught is to pursue.
Society teach men to chase women for sex and then it teaches women to run away from our advances. Companies advertise their products using the beauty of women, knowing it is our weakness. Society penalizes men who flirt or sleep with random women. Yet, these same companies do not target women in the same way. It does not teach them to pursue sex. Companies do not tempt them with sex. Society does not teach little girls to consider themselves lucky when the get a boy’s number. Or if he agrees to date or have sex with them. Boys are.
What I am saying is that if we are really going to talk about sexual harassment, we also have to address the deliberate tempting of a men and see that as sexual harassment as well. Do not tempt the man if you do not want to have sex with him. Let him be, without sexy outfits, hair, make-up or other body and beauty enhancements, gestures that capture attention, but then once you’ve done it, now you want to flip and blame him.
This means, no sexy ads, nude models, pornography, semi-naked women in commercials, placing giant billboards of half-naked women in public places etc. And do not teach young boys to chase / please a woman. If we continue to these things then they are partly responsible for the thirst some men will have for what they have been conditioned to love.*