I’m going to say it, point-blank. Fif is wrong on this one. I believe it could be self-hate when a man generalizes women from other races as more exotic, feminine, or beautiful than those from his race. Are other women more cooperative than our ebony queens? I do not believe that. It is a known fact, throughout the ages, melanated women are often far more beautiful, exotic, and collaborative. Personally, I crave for the honest nature of the African or Caribbean woman. I do not see it as unfavorable. In fact, in most cases, I appreciate it when a melanated woman checks me. It brings me down to earth and challenges me to do better. I hope our ebony queens never lose that authoritarian and independent character. Black women are arguably some of the most influential people.
Our women have to power through racism, gender marginalization, and the various struggles we face. They stand as protectors of the men in our race. I believe that is partly because they remind black men to remember who we are or what we need to be doing. As an African man, you can not waste your opportunities. You should not embrace a dangerous or unhealthy lifestyle. You cannot be ignorant. That’s why our women call us out when we get out of line. There were many times when I could have made a grave mistake, but a strong melanated woman threw me back into my senses. Her passion and oversight stem from the intensity of our collective experience as black people. Ebony queens are an embodiment of love. That is something that everyone needs to understand.
It is generally the ideology that builds up another gender or sexuality at the expense of your gender and sexuality. Most heterosexual men want to secure our legacy…
Many times, you have a situation where heterosexual men criticize radical feminism. When this happens, the immediate reaction is that they are misogynists. It is the same when you support heterosexuality, and the listener assumes that you are homophobic. Most of the time, it is very far from the case. The issue is not usually about gender or sexuality. It is generally the ideology that builds up another gender or sexuality at the expense of your gender and sexuality. Most heterosexual men want to secure our legacy in addition to that of the rest of everyone else. To do that, we need a natural woman who is feminine and co-operative in the traditional sense. When a heterosexual man espouses feminism as an unattractive way of life, it is the negative impact it has on his potential legacy.
What is the heterosexual man’s idea of heritage? He can marry a feminine and co-operative woman that helps him raise a traditional family. He fears the risk of investing his time and resources in an effort that could fail. Therefore, situations like divorce, for example, become a significant pitfall in his journey. The truth remains that women of all races file for divorce. It does not matter if she is Caucasian, Asian, Arab, or African. If she deems that her marriage is no longer fulfilling, she may pull the plug. There is an alarming increase in the rate of divorce. And there is also a slew of impressive statistics that shows women usually initiate them. So, many heterosexual men, blame feminism as the ideology or lifestyle that drives most of those women to do the unimaginable.
What if I said that many of the black men who date outside of their race, did so because the black women they initially lusted after, did not want them? He hollered at a beautiful black woman, asked her out on a date to be his woman, and she said no. Then he met a white woman, and she gave him the love and affection that he craved. Yes, there are many genuine reasons why a black man or woman can fall in love or date people from other races. But that should be a natural occurrence based on mutual connection, not an unhealthy appetite to have someone “exotic” simply because they are different from what we are used to seeing. Don’t date a white or Hispanic woman because you think her race makes her better than the women from your race. Choose the woman who loves you.
I consider it a fable that discolors the black woman’s gracious image. Such a thing sheds a negative light on ebony queens, which is detrimental to black men as well.
Marry her because you both fell in love with each other, and she is the best person who works with your plan in establishing your legacy. And whenever that becomes your reality, it does not give you the right to talk down to the women of your kind. Once we understand that melanated women are far from simple, we come to the issue of race. In the black community, there is this ridiculous myth that our women are angry. Some people even go so far as to describe them as bitter and contentious. I consider it a fable that discolors the black woman’s gracious image. Such a thing sheds a negative light on ebony queens, which is detrimental to black men as well. It gets more annoying when blacks date out of their race and justify it by accusing our women of being jealous of that.
One good example of that is when a single black man runs into a drop-dead gorgeous ebony queen who is deeply in love with a man from another race. It happens, many black men have often complained…
Will a black man become financially successful and then decide not to choose a black woman as his girlfriend, fiancé, or wife? Simply because he wants someone “exotic”? Are black women not exotic? I know at least 50 adorable black women right here on Facebook. It should be a privilege to marry one of them. Is it a coincidence that the said black man fell in love with someone else? Or, is his choice a manifestation of his hatred for his kind? The ideal scenario would be for a black man to become financially successful and marry an ebony queen to create a melanated family. That’s in light of the high rate of single motherhood in the African community. This is a time when black men should seek to reconnect with our women. That is very important, in light of all our negative experiences.
We should be looking to bring fatherhood back into the melanated household. To promote a society where the traditional black family makes a massive comeback. It is not a time for successful black men to mislead average black men to consider women of other races as “more exotic.” One good example of that is when a single black man runs into a drop-dead gorgeous ebony queen who is genuinely in love with a man from another race. It happens, many brothers have often complained about that. Some successful and beautiful black women date outside of the race. My point is that the melanated woman can be exotic and cooperative in a traditional relationship. I am a huge 50 Cent and Lil Wayne fan, but as someone who knows better, I cannot agree with what happened in the said video.*